Confessions Of A Disgruntled Spouse

Marriage gives another dimension to the sweet home, effortlessly making it – a War Zone. The process of adjustments and compromises leads to a lot of friction between the husband and wife. The cat fights and the arguments, get so intense that couples indulge in a bitter verbal war. Apart from this, one can easily recall and relate to the dramatic scene where couples launch an attack towards each other with crockery, pillows and other available household weapons. Things fly across the room along with soaring tempers! It’s nothing less than the Clash of Titans. In the heat of the moment couples confess their repressed thoughts and say things that might leave their spouse disgruntled. This is the reason many get disillusioned about marriage.

When angry we lose control over our mind. Here are a few things most people generally, confess to their spouse when disappointed with their relationship:

• Marrying you was  the biggest mistake of my life
• You are irresponsible
• You are just like your mother/father, so irritating!
• You never fail to disappoint me
• You were a different person  before marriage
• You  hide a lot of things from me
• You always give priority to your family
• You never care for me
• You are selfish
• You have ruined my life
• My ex  was far better compared to you

If your spouse has said anything similar to you don’t worry too much over it or assume that your relationship is on the rocks. Talk to your spouse about how hurt you are by these statements rather than staying away from each other. In most cases after a huge fight couples do not communicate with each other for days, making things worse. Marriage is a Love-Hate relationship that has its own sweet and bitter moments.

A lot of effort goes into making a good relationship. The friction is just a part of the game. A good relationship survives on trust, unconditional love, understanding, contributions and compromises provided it is mutual! Every marriage goes through a rough phase and it is common to have endless fights. Nevertheless they say “There is light at the end of every tunnel”.