Every individual has a bitter self- the negative emotion. Anger, hatred, envy, the list is endless. Both emotions positive and negative as a whole make a human persona. No individual is devoid of these emotions. Some of them let these negative emotions rule them, to such an extent that they subconsciously harm themselves and intentionally people around. Toxic people: as they are commonly referred to by those who dread their presence.
Understanding and Dealing with a Toxic Person:
Negativity: They never see the good in any situation. Their pessimistic nature dampens the spirits of the most enthusiastic souls . They always wish the world comes to an end and so do their problems.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Help them change their perspective and acknowledge the beauty of life
Inflated Ego: Highly sensitive and egoistic, they cannot hear a word against themselves but are very good at picking others flaws. In any given situation they are always Right!
Perfection is a myth they should know. To err is human, bring them back to reality.
Self-pity : “I am the sufferer”; “I am the most hardworking” they are obsessive and cannot look beyond themselves. Using self pity to justify themselves, is something that they love the most.
Everyone has problems, you never know what others are going through. Help them shift focus from "me" to "we".
Envy: Someones happiness reminds them about their own misery. Others success reminds them of their own failures.These individuals constantly compare themselves with Others, hence remain unhappy!
Contentment is the key to happiness, they need to know.
Revenge: They seek revenge for the smallest acts. Humiliating and laughing at people they dislike, for their own pleasure. Compassion does not exist in their dictionary.
Learning to let go brings peace. You cannot survive with an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth strategy.
Criticism: Toxic people often judge others, they never mind criticizing their near and dear ones for trivial reasons.They master the art of portraying people in a bad light.
The world is full of critics, ask them to be an encourager.
Irrational: They fail to realize that life does not go according to our plans. We need to adapt to Life. Hence Bitter!
Take life as it comes! They need to know.
Dominating: They try their best to control other people's life because they have no control over their own. Literally suffocating their victims.
Educate them to live and let live!
Inconsistency: They are good to you when the need arises but stab you in the back when they perceive you as an obstacle in their path.
There is nothing more painful than having an enemy in disguise.
One who comes across Toxic people should know that distancing them is not the only solution. Confrontation is the ideal way to put an end to the troubles they inflict. They can make life miserable if Ignored.
Life experiences are meant to enrich us. Accept the good things as blessings and the bad ones as lessons. Our inability to cope up with the adversities is what makes us bitter. Dealing with Toxic people is quite a task. Healing them with Compassion is the need of the hour.
“ Toxic people will not be changed by the Alchemy of your kindness. Yes! Be kind, but move on swiftly and let Life be their Educator.”_ Brendon Burchard.
Behavior patterns very well classified. To change each patterns takes carefully chosen words to alter the negative behavior as people we are surrounded have these attributes, sometimes they resist the change we try to contemplate and in turn gives us a tough situation in return. To ignore and swiftly move is the best way as mentioned.
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